Personal Inventory: Step Four

Make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves- Step Four of the Twelve. If you dissect this step word for word it is quite amazing what it is saying. It is to seek without fear, within ourselves for our personal rights or wrongs. In essence, it is about taking ownership of our actions. It […]
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Trust; Developing Trust

Developing Trust Most of us live our lives as though something external will bring us the safety and the peace that we seek. Nothing could be farther from the truth. There are not enough cars, women/men, houses, or a good enough job to complete that task. Why? They are all temporary. We perceive things as […]
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Loving an Abusive Parent

We are told from birth, “Trust your family, they will always be there for you as you will and should be for them.” Your dad, your mom, any of your siblings may say, “You can count on me for anything, I will always be here for you.” We are brainwashed from birth with these sayings. […]
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Turning it all Over

Trust Many of the people on this planet, not just addicts or alcoholics have a difficult time trusting, usually with good reason. We have spent a lifetime gathering evidence to prove that trusting will only lead to betrayal, abandonment, disappointment and hurt. We have had parents or siblings throw us under the bus, sometimes it […]
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March 2018 – Coming To Believe Summary

Watch and listen as I summarize our amazing guests, conversations, blogs, etc for the month of March – COMING TO BELIEVE.  

Survivor’s Guilt 2: Moving On

Why is it that we feel guilty when we allow ourselves to grow beyond our family, friends or anyone that we feel bonded to? Why do we feel it is the ultimate act of betrayal to move on? Why do we use guilt to keep us imprisoned in the past? In my family, we lived […]
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Survivor’s Guilt: Breaking the Chain

The pain of an abusive childhood can seem impossible to break away from and the guilt can be like a chain that keeps you tied to the pain. Think of this; you were a child, you were abused and… you feel guilty. How, can that be so? You are angry because you feel victimized and […]
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Healing History (Your-story)

After Coming to Believe, no matter how minimally, we sometimes without realizing it, begin to look for reasons that hope can be real. Most importantly we look for ways to trust that hope is real. Our history is totally based on our perception of our story. Connecting with hope in the second step and starting […]
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Believe

By the time most of us get to the place in our lives where we seek help in the Twelve Steps we feel beaten, defeated, and lost. Believing in ourselves seems almost impossible. By that time believing in anything becomes extremely difficult. Usually, we have chased after every external energy we could find to try […]
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The Morph Process: Step Two

“We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” When I first got involved with the rooms of the Twelve Steps, I was told pretty early on, “Go through these steps word for word with a dictionary and do not assume you know what the step as a whole […]
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